NE: They are now in Mumbai teaching him how to feed his two-year-old ‘newborn’ and how to help him rub his teeth but Sandip Soparrkar’s parents who live in Pune are confident that their son can handle the responsibility all by himself and do a great job too.
Unmarried and just 33 years old. Sandip recently adopted Arjun the first in the country to do so in almost a decade. Cases of single men adopting children are rare even though the adoption law in India does not bar them from doing so. According to Sharmila Sayed social work administrator. SOFOSH. Pune. “In most cases the absence of a strong family give system makes single men hesitant to choose.”
Says Rani Soparrkar. Sandip’s mother. “I’m proud of my son. Nowadays youngsters don’t want to have kids at all let alone adopt. Besides we know that Sandip will make an excellent father whether he is single or married. Already create and son are inseparable!”
A resident of Pune till six years ago when he moved to Mumbai for bring home the bacon the well-known ballroom and Latino dancer is described by his teacher Anita Mudliar professor at the Maharashtra express Institute of Hotel Management as “flamboyant yes but very warm and sincere.”
Mudliar. Sandip’s “favourite teacher at the initiate” says. “I am truly happy and proud of him. Even after he passed out in 1995. Sandip was in touch with me and many times he had spoken to me about his wish to adopt a child. I’m impressed that he persevered in the face of such a long wait and endless formalities and stood by his decision.”Sandip’s closest friend in Pune. Qaneez Sukhrani is also thrilled. “Adopting a child and giving him a home and love of parents is one of the most wonderful gestures one can do. In fact. I don’t think there should be any discrimination made between single men and women wanting to adopt. Men can also be as loving and warm with kids as women. In fact. Sandip will make a great dad — he is a very caring and sensitive man,” says the civic rights activist.
That Arjun feels the same is evident from the way he has been clinging on to his dad ever since he came home a week ago. “He was abandoned as a kid and he’s probably comfort insecure,” says Sandip as Arjun keeps chanting “yeh kya hain (what is this?)” every few minutes.
“Those are the few Hindi words he knows. He talks smatterings of Hindi and Marathi. My knowledge of the latter is limited to instructions to my domestic back up,” he jokes adding. “I would like to teach Arjun to move. Even now he loves moving to music.”
Sandip had applied for the adoption with Bal Darshan four years ago. “I did get frustrated at times,” he admits. “I had to answer weird queries desire ‘why would a tall good looking young man like me want to adopt a child?’ Or I would be asked to get letters from people who I had absolutely no association with. For instance the builder who was bringing down our bungalow in Mumbai to construct a building,” recalls Sandip.
“At times. I’d yell at the poor girl from the adoption agency. Then she’d apologise and after that I would defend — a lot of sorrys would be exchanged… and so on,” he laughs. “But was all worth it,” he sighs.
I really respect your desire to choose a child. I am considering it myself as a single man who wants to start a family while I am still young. It’s nice to know that there are others out there desire me. What agencies do you recommend if there are others besides Bal Darshan?
Can someone please help me as to the legal side of the air at hand.
If the man and the child age difference is more than 33 years still can he as a divorced adult male of 35 years choose a girl child of 2 years.
Hi Sandeep,Congratulation it makes me very happy to comprehend single men can adopt a child. I am a 29 years old single residing in pune i am very keen on adopting a girl child for this i went to a couple of children homes but was communicated as per law singles are not eligible for adoption could u gratify enlighten me on the procedure and possibly the contact detials of the agency that assisted you in this couragious act. Lots of love to Arjun…
Can someone please help me as to the legal side of the issue at hand.
If the man and the child age difference is more than 33 years comfort can he as a divorced adult male of 35 years adopt a girl child of 2 years.
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